If one asked me, “What do you want to achieve?” then the answer would be quite easy. I always have this dream of obtaining my doctoral degree before turning 31. Yes, being such a blabbermouth, lots of people know about this! Some people might say that I am living an unrealistic dream or simply point out that my obsession is bigger than my own ass. Well, I am a big dreamer after all.
One can always justify this choice of mine by quoting Paulo Coelho’s saying, “When you want something sobad, the universe will conspire to make it true!” Yet to be fair, I have lost the hopes of achieving that dream countless of time. Lots and lots of people told me that I need to focus more on the job seeking, shifting my ass from the part-time job I had into a real job. Then, building a family (getting marriedand conceiving offspring) should follow. “Get back to the real world and stop dreaming of being in heaven!”
The very first discouraging moment came when I finished my Master study. Instead of getting a rocketing score of my dream, the final score was far from my expectation. Worse, my score was below the standard to continue my Ph.D in that university. Comparing myself to some friends of mine who continued their doctoral degree there, the lowly feeling started emerging. The big question lingering in mind was “Am I even fit to enter the academia world?”. This is where self-doubt started coming, when I doubted my own ability, when I felt like a failure, and when I beat myself up. It was the point when I felt being castrated from the academia root.
“Let me just focus on being a professional lecturer!” said I. Yes, I gave up the hope for Ph.D! It was not until I saw an opening for a Ph.D position in Sweden. No, it was not in Children’s Literature, but a Comparative Literature instead. A mere speculation. Yet I anxiously waited for the announcement. My age started to reach 26 then. Quite a critical moment to fulfill the ambition, eh? When the email from Sweden suddenly came, it was an empty one. EMPTY email, with nothing., not even a subject. (Now, can I have a back sound of a glass breaking?)
You could call the rejection from Sweden as a final blow to my ambition. It motivated me to really pull my life together and look for a proper job. No more fooling around waiting for Ph.D! No more exhausting part-time jobs!
Did I completely lose my ambition? Well, deep in my heart, there was still a sparkling hope, flickering.Told you, I am a stubborn one! Even during my interview for the proper job, I answered, “I will not move to another institution except when there’s a scholarship offer!”
So, I moved to another town,started a new job, started a new relationship, built a new circle of friends,and completely restarted my life. In the first day of 2013, if I may add. With this perfect time frame, I thought of casting aside the effort to look for scholarships. Let me just be an ordinary man, an ordinary office goer, and an ordinary worker. At least for a year, the hibernating period.
And what did I get? Apparently Big Boss sure loves to play His divine jokes on me. All of a sudden, an opportunity came. Without really hoping of getting accepted (remember my resolution?),I applied for this Ph.D position. Made lots of mistakes in the application,made lots of blunder in the process, but what happened?
I GOT THE SCHOLARSHIP! A FULL ONE!
And what about the limit I set on myself? Well, if I finish it on time, my doctoral degree will come exactly when I am 30 year old!!! I guess, this is the advantage of never stop dreaming……..
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